From the Depths of the Abyss

Good riddance 2023. Except that's not the case at all. Sure, it was a year full of challenges, life changes and more pain than I thought I could handle. But it was also a year of growth, of recovery, of healing, of connection. The honest truth is I had no idea what to expect at the start of 2023 because I was so focused on just surviving each day that I couldn't look to the future without seeing anything but darkness. It took an act of courage by my wife to do what was best for her and our daughters to cast a sliver of light into the blackness that was consuming me. To look back 365 days, to look at where I was in life, there are times that I'm surprised I'm still here. It goes back beyond just this past year, to 3, 4, 5 years ago that I started the slow descent in to the abyss. That's what makes post traumatic stress such a nasty bitch. She doesn't take you quickly. She slowly eats away at the base of what makes you a person, breaking away bits and pieces at a ...

Good day one and all. Thanks again for stopping by to take a read. It's been a bit of a week, winter has hit the region like a fucking truck. Over 15cm of snow and then some heavy winds right out of the north today to just whip everything around. I opened the front door and well over a foot tall drift waiting to fall in on my feet. Makes me just want to stay in a bake which I did a ton of the other day. Joys of cheap bags of baking bananas at the local grocery, so I went bananas...yes, its a good dad joke. I never would have guessed 8 months ago when I went off work for the first time that baking would make the kitchen a safe and relaxing place for me. I had never baked before and have slowly worked my way into it. I'd like to say that I make mean loaf of banana bread and have taken to learning bannock and my own pie crusts. It's a half way decent way to pass some time and gives a good sense of accomplishment when it works out. Even if its not perfect I can enjoy what I...

 Happy Thanksgiving everyone. Thank you for taking the time to stop by. These last couple days have been a chance for me to sit down, relax a little bit and take stock of things. This thanksgiving has been a little bit different then the last ones not only due to my current life situation but also due to the fact that this year as I think about things to be thankful for I can be genuine with my thoughts. It has been a long while since I have been able to do that, to be honest with myself so that I am able to really be appreciative for the things that I have in my life. As with many things over these past months, the chance to write has been a way to get my thoughts out in a more cohesive manner.  I've always been thankful for my girls but this year I feel a whole new level of thankful. These past 9 months since I started to truly heal have been full of highly charged emotional days, days where I haven't been able to do much of anything except sit on the floor and bawl my eyes ...

Well hello there. It's been a hot minute since I have had the mental energy to sit down and put thoughts to fingers so I can type them out. September has had its own run of personal challenges, as can be expected when one is going through a healing journey. I've made a real point of trying to spend less time on social media because I've found that social media doesn't really do a lot for me. There is the aspect of connection that comes with making these posts, from trying to drive some semblance of conversation about hard topics but I've also come to realize that it isn't the best environment for me. Whenever I make a post I seem to hang the value of it on the reach that it has. Which really, I have just over 200 followers on Instagram, less than that on Facebook, so how far are these going to reach? The most important thing for me is still the power of telling my story, of putting myself out there to try and inspire someone else who is struggling to realize tha...

Hi there and welcome back. Last post was a bit more of a positive one, something that I'm trying to bring into my life a little more. Some days it works, some days it sure as shit doesn't. Lately its been very much more of the not. Being back the in the north hasn't been at all easy. With both kids heading to school now and my wife working full time that leaves me a lot of time alone by myself, trapped with my thoughts. The overwhelming reality of being alone scares the ever living shit out of me because I am not really at a point where I am okay to be alone that long. Sure, I have ways to pass the time but once those pervasive thoughts start to go to work no amount of grounding, breathing or distraction seems to work. The overwhelming reality of facing what is to come in my marriage, in my career, in my life is making this process even that much more daunting.  Reader warning: Suicide is a heavy part of this post and is likely distressing to read about. If you need help pl...

 Hello there and welcome back to Heavy's Journey to Hell and somewhere back. It's been a little bit since I've had a chance to sit and do some writing, since my last post was done while at visiting family during a summer holiday. As those of you who live at distance from friends and family know, trips back home are always busy and seldom is there a lot of time to be able to sit and put pen to paper. Before I get far into the post this week I really want to say thank you for the words of support, especially after the last post. That one was pretty hard to get through, especially given my current reality in life. It took a lot out of me to make that post and to be honest I'm really not surprised it took this long to get writing again.  I found this sentiment this week and want to share it: If your energy is occupied with surviving, you might not feel able to access other parts of yourself, like your creativity or humour. Yet that doesn't mean those parts of yourself a...

Good afternoon and welcome back for another post. Once again, thank you so much for taking the time to stop by and read my story. Since I started posting last month I've had over 500 people visit the main page and 350 read my posts. I'm pretty blown away by that and the notes of support and messages from people who have gone through similar experiences shows me that I'm not alone in what I've felt and what I've gone through. This weeks post has been a tough one to write and there were more than a few tears shed while opening some wounds. There are mentions of suicide and as always, this may be distressing. What truly is the hardest part of the healing process? Is it learning how to live without just trying to survive? Is it the constant struggles against your demons to just get through the day? Is it finding the energy to do the little things that you know you need to do like brush your teeth, change your underwear or drink some water? Each person's own experien...